Saturday Morning Counseling is designed to talk about those taboo issues that have been hiding out and silent assassins to peace, joy, and love. We talk about relationships, behaviors, environments, atmospheres, and how to create what you want with the right communication. Let's do 'dis!
This is not time to make excuses. Many have tried to discourage you, have tried to deter you- but you must know that God has created you for a unique purpose. God gave you a dream. Don't let it die on the pillow.
Many people think they are fighting the cycle but what they are fighting is the mindset and complacency of the behavior that creates the cycle. Outcomes are determined by inputs, and if you don't put into something nothing will come out of it. The cycle is the enemy to positive outcomes but the mind is the betrayer. When people are locked into themselves, they can't see the patterns that they are creating around them that hurt other people. The mind justifies the behavior because even the mind knows the place of complacency in a behavior UNTIL it is shown something different.
You need to create an environment of purity in spiritual and physical intimacy with your spouse so that you have a strong relationship with vulnerability, trust, and intimacy. We want to create the right environment to eliminate dysfunction
The pain comes when people don't take the time to listen, and the frustration comes when others can't handle what you have to say. Is it possible to create cohesiveness when someone just can't handle what you have to say? Yes, it starts by creating a cycle. First, the unresolved issues must get dealt with- and it's not going to be all at once- it's a gradual build-up that leads to daily discussions. The same pattern that was used to alleviate the problem is the same pattern that should become a cycle in the communication style in the relationship. It respects the thresholds of partnership and it is an equal give and take.
Shutting down is a communication style that is often seen as hostile, angry, and could become manipulative or even abusive, and then there is a time when shutting down is quite appropriate. Allow me to demonstrate why it is harmful and you can also see when it is warranted. I'll say it again for all of those who do not follow the ministry; RISE believes in building and strengthening relationships through communication and because we are people-centric, we are value-based. The strength of any relationship is the foundation that it is built on, and the premise of Christian relationships is the foundation of Christ. The ministry of Christ is God's love which demonstrates the way, truth, and life. The way is the demonstration, truth is pure honesty never withholding a moment to concede or convict, and ultimately a life that is abundantly lived in joy. Understanding the value base (love) of being people-centric, we must understand what the human connection (mind, body, and soul) is in need of.
Disruption can be one of the greatest opportunities for growth and change, but so often people are challenged by it because it doesn't fit what they have become or what is considered "their normal". There are those in this time that have resisted change so much that they are starved of the opportunities and rewards of change. This is about relationship building and the willingness to do something different so that you get the expected outcome. Change can be stressful, and there needs to coping mechanisms that are established in marriages, friendships, and business relationships alike so that one can counteract the other.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8- So many of you have lost the true meaning of love because you see it from a selfish lense never considering the other person, but remember love is truth and knowing the absolute truth will put you in the shoes of the other person to understand, to diminish frustration, to comfort, to support and to overcome. God has us dealing with relationships because the right relationships were ordained from the foundation of the earth so that God could show His love one to another. It is God in you, that shows another individual the love that God has for them, and God in them that shows you the love He has for you.
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